Published on December 9th, 2012 | by No Artificial
Is It Ok For A Woman To Propose?
According to research released earlier this year, men and women
are remarkably traditional when it comes to marriage.
A new study conducted by the University of California, Santa Cruz uncovered that none of the 277 heterosexual college students surveyed wanted a marriage proposal in which the woman asked
the man to marry her.
As a matter of fact, two-thirds of the participants responded that they’d “definitely” want the man
to propose, and 2.8 percent of women said they’d “kind of” want to propose. But no male or female students said they’d “definitely” want the woman to propose.
And while 60 percent of women said they were “very willing” or “somewhat willing” to change their surname to their husband’s upon marriage, 64 percent of men said they were “very unwilling”
or “somewhat unwilling” to do the same for their future wives.
“These topics are something that most people deal with and that most people decide to do
in a traditional way,” stated study researcher Rachael Robnett, a graduate student in psychology
at the University of California, Santa Cruz.
The results of the study also suggest that the strongest believers in traditional marriage roles tend
to be people high in benevolent sexism, or attitudes that women should be adored, protected
and given special treatment.
“Women and men who are high in benevolent sexism are also the people who express a really strong desire to adhere to marriage traditions,” Robnett explained.
There’s nothing wrong with that, Robnett added. Plenty of people are perfectly happy with traditional proposals and name changes, she added. The problem, she said, comes when tradition takes precedence over flexibility and what is right for individual couples.
“If you don’t have that flexibility, it can be constraining to both women and men — women who would like to propose or men who would like to receive a proposal,” she stated.
Journal of Adolescent Research